The city is not safe, neither the thoughts of this society.

It would be a big lie if I say that I am not disturbed by the incidence that took place a few days back.. 

and no matter how much I want to stay positive and ignore the posts or reserve myself from commenting on any political stuff, I know now that this is just not done.

Yes, my state of mind is disturbed and I am hating every bit around me. 

Whoever saw me today for an extra second, I wanted to take their eyes off !

Next time I know someone wink towards me at the metro station. I ll get him thrashed or kick him in public there and then !

Yes, one news has changed my outlook of the way I see men around me.

Its not recent that we have faced such issues.

A few years back when I was just a little girl I was eve teased right outside of my house by a drunk man (yes that's one reason I think every person out there who drinks is nothing but a loser trying to   overcome their downed image!), I reacted and protested and every single person who witnessed my anger and frustration told me to take care of my actions which further had only frustrated me as to why I am being asked to ignore the incidence....

I clearly remember that day, I remember every little detail that still haunts me... The man in his late 20's didn't physically touched me but said the dirtiest things to me, right outside my house, in the presence of 5 ladies who were out for an evening walk and a press wala bhaiya who refused to stop his activities for once and listen to my complaint and stop that drunk man right there. Later I got back home and I shared the incidence to my family members and the only thing was a hug from my mom... Later in the evening one of the senior member came home (probably the word spread by the gossip time while the ladies walked back home) and asked me about the man and if I had seen him earlier aswell. They just listened and later told me that if next time ever anything like that happens then I am supposed to ignore and walk back home and not scream and shout in protest because that might hurt the ego to that so-called-man (like challenging his mardaangi) and he would probably hurt me in even worse ways.

In this entire episode, I ended up hating people around me. Not just that one man who was behind it all, but the people around me (including my loved ones) who told me to stay safe and just avoid, coz when you wont react then they will eventually lose interest and leave.
Is this really what should be taught to us ? TO ignore?
Isn't it the responsibility of the people in this society to teach their sons to respect women and to treat her right.

 a note that I wrote as I left from home today: 

As I move out of home.. My father has tense marks over his
forehead. The only skin visible is my hands and my face and even then
he gives me instructions to be safe- because its not me ..its those
disgusting cockroaches in the society with eyes of a jackal  (earlier
he used to ask me to use a public transport and not walk alone.. Today
he didn't mention anything of it. Yes...its coz of the early morning
headlines on each and every newspaper) I can't complain if he calls me
endlessly when I am out, he is a father after all. I am typing this
note as I walk towards my destination. But I know now that I don't
deserve to complain if my family calls me up to check on me, or call
me home early. Because its not that they don't trust me. Its because
they don't trust the world we live in.
p.s. For the first time in months, I saw fear in the eyes of my father, and that was one moment where my heart ached but I had no words to re-assure him or myself.

Also sharing a post shared by a few friends on the timeline :

You! Yes You! First of all you grow up so that in turn, even your son learns to grow up. And while we are at it, when your son is naively enjoying his childhood and pre-teen years, teach him how to respect a woman! Teach him that its ok to say Hello BUT ITS IN NO WAY OK TO TOUCH HER WITHOUT HER PERMISSION. Teach him about Sex, about its intricacies, about how its done and how its NOT supposed to be done. TEACH HIM TO RESPECT SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. Teach him About Condoms, about how they are useful, how varied they are and how they help you when it comes to family planning. Teach him to not make irritating and inviting noises when they see a woman as its cheap and qualifies them to be whacked in the face by any random woman. Teach Him how to satisfy his Libido INDEPENDENTLY. Yes! teach him how its done in case he ever feels the urge and he doesn't have a consenting, yes, CONSENTING partner around. Teach him to not be shy about it and communicate with you i.e. his hopefully matured parents regularly on this topic. Teach him about some basic Sex etiquette ergo to not force a woman, not see her as an object of desire or an object which is created by the almighty to relieve you of your urges, to see her as another HUMAN BEING WITH WISHES AND CHOICES, to behave well, even in the privacy of their bedrooms etc. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, TEACH YOUR SON THAT IT IS IN NO SANELY POSSIBLE WAY OK TO FORCE YOURSELF ON A WOMAN AND THRUST YOUR PUNY SO CALLED EXTERNAL ATTACHMENT IN A HEINOUS WAY SO AS TO SATIATE YOUR LIBIDO IN SHADY PLACES LIKE A MULTIPLEX BATHROOM, A MOVING BUS, A MOVING CAR, A STREET CORNER OR ANY GOD FORSAKEN PLACE IN THIS ENTIRE MOTHER FREAKING UNIVERSE..! AND MAYBE THAT WILL STOP HIM FROM BEING A RAPIST WHEN HE GROWS UP OR STOP YOU FROM BEING A RAPIST'S FATHER!



Shared by yet another friend (Poulami Mukherjee) :
That many Indian men - and boys - are brought up by their families to believe that women are property.
I get the sense that somewhere behind every rapist is a Father who thinks men are superior to women, and tacitly encourages his sons to be aggressive with girls - and a Mother who perhaps quietly acquiesces, and turns a blind eye to her son's doings, afraid of incurring her spouse's wrath.
Sure, a few death sentences may make a point. But I think a much deeper educational and social change is needed.
Note, for instance the khaps in Haryana who believe eating chow mein causes men to lose control and commit rape. Or that the end of child marriage was the beginning of rape - because men HAVE to do it anyway, and if you take away one recourse to sexual satisfaction, they'll take up another. Or the belief of police officers that women bring it upon themselves by dressing provocatively and being out at night.
Somewhere our movies need to change, our textbooks need to change.
It won't just take the stick of fast-track courts and harsher sentences, it'll also take a lot of carrot of the right sort of education, the right sort of TV shows, the right sort of movies and the right sort of evangelism to make this happen.
And another friend shared a status with a tag :
#StopKillingHerDreamsAndRuiningHerLife

Fast-track courts and harsh sentences are all very well. But I don't think they touch the real issue: